RONNIE MILSAP SANG, “Please don’t tell me how the story ends.”  It’s about the end of a love affair,  but one of the lines caught my attention when THINKING OF CAREGIVERS.  It says,

“Just let me go on loving and believing – ‘till it’s over.

Please don’t tell me how the story ends.”

Children of the elderly or spouses, are susceptible to the pathology of depression, guilt, anger, fatigue, arguing, insomnia, anxiety, resentment and exhaustion when acting as CAREGIVER.  In fact, being in the assisted living business, it has been necessary for my administrator to ask a caregiver to take some time off due to their being overwhelmed.  The constant drip-drip of demands  and activities of daily living such as toileting, dressing, eating, ambulating, medication, etc., start to bring on frustration exhibited by impatience and yelling at the patient.

As a general rule, caregivers don’t recognize their mental and emotional anguish. The sad thing is that in many cases the caregiver will take on the symptoms of the person they are caring for – even death.  Or, they start to neglect their own care and health.

Caregivers are givers and hesitate to admit their exasperation and guilt.  Little by little a dark resentment gathers steam in their heart and mind.  Too often they will say, “I don’t know if there is a God, but if there is, he sure doesn’t know what I’m going through!”

To caregivers I say, “if you really, really want to, you could find a way to take a day or two off – frequently! You may need sleep. You may need to eat a quiet, healthful meal with someone.  You may need to talk with a friend. Mothers of small children should talk with an adult … frequently. Seeking out professional help should be considered.”

YES. YOU. CAN!   If you want to.

Here are seven things to think about from the pen of Paul.

“(1) Don’t worry about anything; (2) instead pray about everything.

(3) Tell God what you need,

(4) thank him for all he has done.  (5) Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand.

(6) His peace will guard your hearts and minds

(7) as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7    🎼🎶🎹

“Does Jesus care when my heart is pained

Too deeply for mirth or song,

As the burdens press, and the cares distress,

And the way grows weary and long?

“Oh, yes, He cares, I know He cares,

His heart is touched with my grief;

When the days are weary, the long nights dreary,

I know my Savior cares.”

(Frank E. Graef)

“God will generously provide all you need. Then you will always have …  plenty left over to share with others.”

2 Corinthians 9:8 (nlt)



THERE IT WAS RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME, WRITTEN IN RED.  And I got to thinking, yes, there have been times when for no apparent reason a sudden panic attack hit me.  Anxiety & Fear! Scared! Why?

“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
2 Timothy 1:7 (kjv)

If God didn’t give me this uneasy, “squeegy” feeling, who did?  “Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” (James 4:7)
Again, this came on me for no apparent reason!

Printed in some Bibles, when Jesus speaks it’s WRITTEN IN RED.  In just 10 verses of Matthew 6:25-34 the word anxious is used by Jesus 6 times.  What was his antidote for anxiety?

A. Know who God is.
B. Go out somewhere, sit down and look at the birds.
C. Don’t look in the mirror because you’ll probably find something you don’t like.
D. While you’re out looking at the birds, find a flower to look at.  Not even movie stars and models have such beauty, besides too many of them are insecure and nuts.
E. Jesus is saying, take a deep breath and relax – smell the flower.
F. Why be preoccupied with getting when you could respond by giving … and not be anxious?
G. Trust God because HE is doing some amazing things in your life right now; praise him, tell him you love him, worship him and all of a sudden, your anxiety is gone!

The Psalmist wrote:
“I’m getting kicked around, stomped on every day. Not a day goes by but somebody [or some thing] beats me up; They make it their duty to beat me up. When I get really afraid I COME TO YOU IN TRUST.  I’m proud to PRAISE GOD; fearless now, I TRUST IN GOD. What can mere mortals do?”
Psalm 56:1-4 (msg)

BTW, when you talk to God, thank him.  Relax, your NEW YEAR is WRITTEN IN RED!
“And so, dear brothers and sisters, we can boldly enter heaven’s Most Holy Place because of the blood of Jesus. By his death, Jesus opened a new and life-giving way through the curtain into the Most Holy Place.”
Hebrews 10:19-20 (nlt)


ANXIETY! PSYCHIATRISTS, COUNSELORS, PASTORS and others who are in the helping/healing professions deal regularly with upset, scared, anxious people. There are a thousand reasons why people live lives of distress and uneasiness.  Even the Psalmist said, “ … my soul refused to be comforted.”

Psalms 77:2 (kjv)

It’s far beyond my ability to provide a complete answer, but I’m convinced that the closest answer is this:

“Be careful for nothing [force yourself to reject worry]; but in every [little] thing by prayer [when was the last time you got alone with God] supplication [humble prayer] with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God [tell Him – He loves to hear you praise Him].  And [this is what is going to happen] the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:6-7 (kjv)

I have NEVER read anything in the Bible that in order to have peace you should eat cheese with your whine!  It says,

“Celebrate God all day, every day. I mean, revel in him! Make it as clear as you can to all you meet that you’re on their side, working with them and not against them. Help them see that the Master is about to arrive. He could show up any minute!”
Philippians 4:4-5 (msg)